Being the youngest in the family...

Being the youngest in the family ..believe me it comes with lot of responsibilities..
I know how hard it is! I am the youngest of five children to my parents and its always fun to be with a big wonderful family.
Here is a handy list of the things I enjoyed being the last child
1. Parents support you no matter what saying "don't make her cry.Give whatever toy she wants .she will learn when she grows up"

2.No need to share anything with your sisters and brothers because they generously give you a portion of whatever they have whether it might be a chocolate or a crayons set.

3.whenever Mommy and Daddy scolds you ( rarely happens) they will become a shield and protect you covering all your silly mistakes.

4.They will do half of your homework and you get to eat all the yummy dishes they try after getting a recipe from aunt or some book.

5.You can bunk your school whenever they come home from hostel saying "i missed u pyari( usually i call my sisters like that) all this week".

6.You get good gifts (whatever is on the wishlist.com) for your birthdays.

7.You can watch movies on TV with them instead of some Bala Vihar or Teleschool (these were the progrms on TV for children in my childhood)

8.You can hangout with their friends.

9.You can have all their make up stuff..you will be like a cynosure( my 2nd sister used to plait my hair and try all kinds of new hair styles on me and my friends used to stare at me when I get a new pair of hair bands.My younger sister used to study her B.Tech in BITS and she used to get me all the dresses with mirror work and colorful bandini scarfs ..aaah loved them.)

10.They will ask you all those IQ questions and tricky puzzles ,when you don't answer them they explain them and you can go back to school sit in between your friends and ask the same questions and pose infront of them saying "It is very easy man..just use your brain" as if you answered it for the first time..ehhhhhh.

Now comes the difficult side of childhood.

1.You should meet all their expectations this includes the school teachers also (who refer you as X's sister and obviously it proves that X is highly active and intelligent because teachers often remmeber the bright students of the class)..yaaaaa

2.you should show better performance than your younger sister or brother ..(My pop used to say that the graph of our individual achievements should always be going high).

3.you get to read all the second hand school books ( used by the one above you).

4.You will be like a puppet..
a one good example..after people go to bed and they forgot to turn off the light .they just say "choti switch off the light" ..
just get me a glass of water..


5.when some thing breaks or misplaced you will be the first suspect ..lots of questioning and hell lot of explanation( this is how you will improve your reasoning skills).

6.You should read even in your summer break because they usually come home after exams and don't have much to do and general attention is diverted towards you and then starts struggle..you should answer your final exams question paper once again and they will correct all the mistakes and they give a feedback of the year's performance to the High Commands( mom and pop).

7.You should go and get them any small things like some kesar for vermicelli from the bazar on your bicycle which they usually forget while they were shopping the before day.

8.You cannot invite your friends to come over to your house because if they come they will also have to answer the exam question papers and thereafter you should talk to the only one who scores a higher grade.

9.They will just keep telling you not to waste time, concentrate on your studies and at times teach you how to memorize things and few tips for fast reading which you have to listen from each one of them at different times of the day :)

10.The bad thing of all is When they get married and go away you will be alone missing all the fun :(

Irrespective of all these ..staying close to your family is like heaven..I am here far far away from all my dearest ones..Miss u all :(

coffee

I know it has caffeine and its not at all good to have coffee ..but why don't people just ignore it and offer me a cup of coffee instead of saying that if you drink coffee which has caffeine it increases your heart risk..blah blah blah..Few things in life give us immense pleasure and for me one among them is coffee.Just an 8oz coffee..

Even the thought of running out of coffee powder or milk is unbearable and my day becomes gloomy if i don't have a cup of coffee in the morning...If people say it is addiction ,no worries I am not giving it a thought because COFFEE makes my day bright and sunny in this gloomy seattle where there are dark black evil clouds 24/7 anxiously waiting to attack and destroy the beautiful sunny days. I was just dreaming to get far far away from this evil monstors and enjoy my cup of coffee sitting in my patio looking at the most beautiful SUN dressed up in silky flowing golden gown ..aaaaaaah! hope that day will come very soon into my life.

Common weather in SEATTLE..cloudy with drizzles,rainy.. I am totally fed up with this weather report..Waiting for summer with bated breath.

So what I wanted to say is " please please lemme enjoy my cup of coffee..whatever caffiene does to me I will handle it..thanks for being my well wisher.."

PS : I thank GOD for giving me a husband who can understand this totally and perfectly..he he

It is a child not a choice

The other day when I was on my way to have a nice cup of coffee in the chilled evening i came across people holding some posters saying ..

It is a child not a choice.
Abortion...is a sin..
God bless the mother and her unborn child.

I wondered why these people are standing there for hours together in the cold climate and just thought for myself ....."who gives it a thought even if they stand there for 24/7".

After coming home I just couldn't avoid thinking about it...Then I thought volunteering is effective.yes its a sin to kill a child before he sees this world..coz its just equivalent to murder an innocent human being..just taking a pill is easy but giving birth to a child, good nourishment and good life is difficult..

There are many people who are depressed and in need of a child for them.There are couples who cannot have a baby , women who dream to become a Mom .There are people who lost their child due to numerous countless reasons...We do not realize the value of things which we possess ..only when it is just out of our hands ,we realize but by that time everything is over...

Instead of taking a pill or going for abortion try to think for yourself and be cautious ..make up your mind ..take a decision and try to accept the most valuable and precious thing that comes into our life coz IT IS A CHILD NOT A CHOICE. If you feel that you cannot raise a child by yourself please atleast give a thought about an option called ADOPTION. A child is a blessing to parents.Do not just kill it before it takes its form.

Love

From my husband to me..

At times, I think
Of the time I fell in love
With you,

Like a warm breeze,
When your smile
Would refresh my mind...

Like the falling creases of smooth silk,
When your glances
Would swarm my soul...

When it seemed
Life would be so easy
Like a light walk on the beach

Like a warm bath
In the scents of your breath
I knew, life would be so easy

Days flew by
Like waves with the wind
Now I think

Of the time I am in love
With you
The present

And with eyes
As clear as cloudless skies
I see

What is easy
It wasn't life
It was life with you

As you hold my hands
This anniversary,
I feel my troubles are long gone

That you give strength
Inexplicable
To help me stand

The wonderful nature
That makes the bright roses
My dear

Isn't brighter
Than you
Who fills my dark days

With light
Brighter than a rose
Reminds me today

A very special day
To thank you
For being the love

I craved for
For being the friend
I longed for

I cannot speak
For I have no words
To describe what I feel

But know in your heart
That every beat
Of my heart
Only calls you...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY , My Sweetheart!

Desperate Housewives

I just wondered all these days why they named it Desperate Housewives and one day decided to watch it just to know whether the title is apt and you don't believe me the next day i was so desperate to watch all the three seasons and ordered them on my netflix.I used to wait for my dvd to be shipped and used to watch immidiately after i bring back the mail. I don't know why i liked it so much but one thing i can say for sure is...there are certain tings in the world which we cannot change. At times a person cannot judge himself and feels so desperate to do certain things, to know some secrets, to just follow his heart paying no attention to the society around him coz it gives total satisfaction and the best reason to live.....

"Follow Your Instincts..." and after the moment you do it , trust me you feel like you are the king of the world.You will start to love people more than yourself.

And this strategy is very beautifully putforth in this serial. You will also find a part of yourself when you watch this.

Love your life

What are the things that just force a person ( esp children) to decide against life and give up a valuable life?

Why don't they just understand that they are a part of a family where everyone loves them and that they are in such a wonderful place where people around them are full of love and affection.Why don't they just consider it for a moment ..


Why will they just take a decision and say that they just want to end up their life and do it?Are they not enough matured ?Whats going on with todays education system ...Does it provide any strength to fight against these psychological imbalances?

Parents give children whatever they can and they take utmost care of them ..They just give up all the pleasures in life and sacrifice evreything for the upbringing of their children.They just hope that thier child should be a good human being with moral values..They provide good education to learn things, be cultured and civilized...what should children learn?

Apart from education children should learn to be strong even in the adverse situations..whatever the reasons might be they have no right to end their life..If there is something stressful in their life, they should express it to their parents or friends...An open and friendly chat regarding any kind of issue helps in solving it easily.


At the same time parents should not force a grownup child to do anything against his/her wish..they should give that space to the child and should ensure him /her that they are with them at all times..A parent should try to know whats going on in their child's life.If there is a problem with the child do not just comment on it..sarcacism never helps.More over it hurts much..the child takes it as an abuse and it widens the gap between the parent and child..Do not compare with others .Focus on the child's area of expertise.Give him courage and inspiration to do things.The child can be a better individual if they do so.

Parents should understand there is a great diversity of mental abilities in children.One child may be active and can grasp things easily while the other may be sober but really good at logically solving the problems ..One cannot judge a child by giving a common example because every child's performance is different..

We all know its complicated for a child to understand and take life seriously at that age..but we can avoid major psychological issues of children by just giving them more love and support.
The stress that a child has due to rising compettition is a major cause for these emotional imbalance.Just keeping away all these reasons, lets do our best in giving a relaxed and joyful life to our children .

Love your life...

The God Of Small Things

THE GOD OF SMALL THINGS......

I just read this amazing book by Arundhati Roy and found her expressions and references very intresting...she had a different style of putting forth the everyday life in villages back in 1969..it is all about the characters...

a bad tempered aunt, a troubled mother ,a rude drunkard husband , a humble neighbor , a politically motivated person , a witty mama , an egoistic grand father,a grandmother with inclination towards his son..two-egg twins and a little girl from London...

some of the things I liked from the book

• Screaming steel bird in the skyblue sky...
• A plantoon of ants carried a dead cockroach sedately through the door, demonstrating what should be done with corpses..
• Shadows gathered like bats in the steep hollows near her collarbone...
• a viable,die-able age....
• A wake , A live , A lert...
• Automobile islands in a river of people...
• Fisherman with secrets of sea in his eyes...
• Coconut trees were sea anemones waving their tentacles hoping to trap and eat an unsuspecting cloud...
• The sounds of a thousand voices spread over the frozen traffic like a noise umbrella..
• Squeezed the water out of it ( savagely ,as though it was an unwanted thought )
• The secret of the Great Stories is that they have no secrets. The Great Stories are the ones you have already heard and want to hear again. The ones you can enter anywhere and inhabit comfortably. They don't deceive you with thrills and trick endings. They don't surprise you with unforeseen. They are as familiar as the house you live in. Or the smell of your lover's skin. You know how they end , yet you listen as though you don't. In the way that although you know that one day you will die, you live as though you won't. In the Great Stories you know who lives , who dies, who finds love,who doesn't. And yet you want to know again... That is their mystery and their magic...